This is a great article and I agree with you on almost everything except the forgiveness part.

I've come across different interpretations of what forgiveness means and how it looks - your version is one I agree with, but I'm conscious that others mean something different when they say 'forgive'. For some people, forgiveness means to think well of the person they are forgiving. This is why I avoid using the term, and instead aim for acceptance - this takes away any pressure that the abused person feels to 'think well' of their abuser, which sometimes is not appropriate. But I believe that everyone should (and could) reach a place of acceptance, which is a good place to be. Then perhaps forgiveness will follow, or maybe it won't but that's ok, there is no pressure to 'think well' of the abuser.

I think I'm repeating what you've already said, just wanted to put this out there.