Thanks for this, I'd like to share an idea to gauge people's reactions - I'm not sure how appropriate this idea is but I really hope I don't offend anyone (my idea is the last item below).

Some context first: I've always had strong imposter syndrome related to my neurodiversity because I can do most things that neurotypicals can do (e.g. hold down a job, have a family, run my life to an acceptable degree etc). But to be honest, it takes a lot of mental and physical effort trying to "keep up" with the basics, and I have many, many examples where my natural inclinations run counter to the "norm". I feel that my inate qualities get stamped down by this culture and society, I have so much to offer but rarely have the chance to shine. I can go into more detail but I'm trying to keep this comment short (I have a tendency to "over explain" as many people have told me, but I feel that context is important).

Here's my idea: in the neurotypical world, you have a hierarchy of capability - for example, some neurotypicals have great lives (by neurotypical standards) filled with meaningful work, wealth, status, family, vibrant social life etc. Other neurotypicals struggle with some or all of these - so the hierachy of capability ranges from the most capable neurotypicals to the least capable. For example, I'd guess that Barack Obama sits on the "most capable" end of the range (let's ignore the effects of wealth and privilege for this idea).

The same is true for neurodiverse people. I believe I sit at the "more capable" end of the range for neurodiversity which means that compared to many neurotypicals, I can "hold my own" against them because I'm "top of the range" for my neurotype (and they are middle-to-low range for their neurotype). But because the world is not designed for me, it takes all my energy just keeping up with the basics.

I'm guessing many "top of the range" neurodiverse people know they are different but because they can generally get along in life ok, they dismiss/ignore/misunderstand the truth of their neurodiversity, like I did for many years.

In other words, I feel like I could achieve so much more if things were designed for me (like become President!), but I spend most of my energy just keeping up with the basics. But I'm grateful too, because my "top of the range" qualities mean I can still live a good enough life. I know (and love) many neurodiverse people who can't even do the basics and struggle so much in life, and need a lot of additional support - for this idea, we would classify these people as having mid-to-low range capabilities in a system not designed for them, so they struggle a lot more when compared to neurotypicals in the same capability range).

What are people's thoughts about this? Is my idea offensive? I'm not trying to put myself above other people, I'm only trying to analyse and understand this. Everyone's lives and efforts are valuable, it's just true that some people are more capable than others at achieving more across a broader range of things.