Obsession with a person after one or two meetings in person is problematic. In my case, it pointed to a desperation to be loved and validated by someone, anyone, and indicated that I had more inner work to do by healing my childhood wounds of emotional neglect, including creating a fantasy of my mother when the reality was not great. Limerence was a childhood survival strategy that helped me survive childhood but in adulthood, it was messing up my chances of finding real connection and love.

To put it another way, if I meet someone once and they start fantasising about me, it feels icky. This is how I made healthy and stable women feel - it was only those women who also struggled with unresolved childhood wounds that were attracted to me and would obsess about me in return, resulting in dysfunctional relationships (due to both our our dysfunction we were bringing in).

So my point is, if you find yourself obsessing over someone who you barely know and have not spent months getting to know, you probably have some unresolved childhood issues that need attention.