I see your point and sympathise with you, my ex-wife is autistic so this topic is very familiar to me. However, I would question why you are dating neurotypicals at all and not dating other autistic people?

The communication divide between autistic and neuroptypical people is just too wide for romantic relationships in most cases. I've read about many successful relationships between two autistic people, it just seems to work, so why would any autistic person put themselves at such risk of failure to try and date NTs? It just makes no sense to me. Dating is hard enough, why make it infinitely harder on yourself?