I relate to this so much, it’s like you’re writing about my parents! I had therapy last year at the age of 38, it’s been life changing for me. I’ve found my voice finally, and getting to the point of acceptance. I still have bad days/weeks though, and probably always will.

I see what the other commenter Jean here is trying to say, that we should see our trauma as a gift to learn from. But to be honest, his comment comes across as a bit tone-deaf to your article — experiencing neglect and trauma as a child from those who should have loved most is extremely painful, I would not wish it on anyone.