I agree with everything you've writtten, but from experience and study, it's generally a bad idea for autistic and allistic people to date and form romantic relationships.

The communication divide is too wide to bridge unless both parties are exceptional at communicating - but most people are average-to-poor communicators. If the allistic person is willing to put in hard work to understand an autistic perspective, then good for them - but most people do not want romantic relationships to be very hard work and effort, which is understandable.

The huge effort required to make autistic/allistic relationships work is often just not worth it I'm sorry to say. Autistic people are much better suited for each other, so why would an autisitc person take on the hard work and risk to make a relationship with an allistic person work when they can have a much nicer, calmer and fulfilling relationship with another autistic person?