Great advice, I've had to unlearn the tall idea, it's something I've been insecure about for many years - therapy has helped a lot, I used to hate myself because of my shitty childhood, not because I'm short. I feel sorry for guys that go through painful (and expensive) leg surgery to gain a few inches, they should be focussing on their inner world, not seeking validation from the outside.

You're right that many women like charisma ultimately. I've been working on my conversation skills recently by forcing myself to go to busy social events, it's stopped being scary and becoming fun! I like the challenge of talking to random people and keeping the conversation going.