As a person who is diagnosed ADHD and I'm sure I'm autistic, I can relate strongly to most of these points. I believe I was nurtured to show typically 'female traits' due to my mother's unresolved fears about men (I believe she was unconsciously trying to supress the 'masculine' parts of my personality)*. I believe this is why I often relate to the autistic women's perspective rather than the autistic man's perspective. I fall outside of any 'typical male' behaviour in general.

* I disagree with the idea of gendering emotions, outlooks etc but it serves our purpose for this discussion.